The Taiwan Blogosphere: Advice to the lovelorn

One hazard of blogging on Taiwan came to both Daniel at Suitcasing and myself today, as we got letters asking for advice from the lovelorn. There must be a pretty steady supply of these letters zooming out to Asian bloggers.... Spake Daniel:

Someone recently asked me for dating advice. Specifically, about flying from the US to here, to see a Taiwanese woman he'd become familiar with over the Internet.

As I've actually received a few emails like this before, I thought I'd post my response, in case you too are planning a first meeting with a mysterious Asian woman.

Basically, I don't have much advice. It's the kind of topic where you could say a million things or nothing: what an individual (Asian) person wants, it's impossible to say. Maybe this woman just enjoys chatting to people online and got to really like you, maybe she just wants to meet someone new, maybe she wants to get married, maybe she wants a Western husband, maybe she wants to emigrate, maybe she doesn't know what she wants, maybe she's preparing to steal your money and any children fathered from your loins. I could cite anecdotes about all of the above.

Daniel goes on to offer a double-date service, in which Daniel vets the prospective g/f.

I got one of those today too

I am from _______. I am -- years old. I find i am attracted to asian girls and not much westerners. I find this a huge problem, as asians here tend to stick to themselves. I am not a weird or strange type of westerner that can't find a girl here, just i am not attracted to westerners. I am told i am very handsome, nice and genuine guy, good communicator, well educated too....So it is not that girls aren't interested in me, just seems impossible to meet asian girls here etc I was thinking of going to japan or taiwan to meet a girl for long term - marraige (1 prob with japan is there are few christians and i am christian..also i heard often they don't want to leave japan). Is this a crazy idea, to look overseas, especially considering what i have read about taiwanese having no interest in anything but work etc..and their attitude that everything about them is superior to westerner - we can't control our emotions, sex maniacs, lazy, don't value family......Any advice - i am going crazy trying to solve this problem.

I gave him the same advice that Daniel did: come here and find out. It's different for everyone.

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