tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10698887.post7867874343827491487..comments2023-10-22T18:25:39.688+08:00Comments on The View from Taiwan: Marriage and Women in TaiwanMichael Turtonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17974403961870976346noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10698887.post-6261687488672602692010-09-18T09:13:19.897+08:002010-09-18T09:13:19.897+08:00It seems divorce is part of modernization. We go f...It seems divorce is part of modernization. We go from not being able to divorce - these reasons could come out of legality, societal values, and financial dependence - to no longer having restrictions keeping you in a bad marriage. I once asked a class of mostly female South Korean women what they thought of rising divorce rates and they all said it was good. They no longer had to be stuck in a bad marriage.<br /><br />I think divorce in this case may indeed come from the women's side as men may just stay married but take on lovers and ignore their wife. For women to divorce they need both societal and financial power. I think if you look around Asia, Taiwan probably offers women the highest combination of both.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10698887.post-27822617922229850162010-09-18T00:54:51.677+08:002010-09-18T00:54:51.677+08:00Interesting article:)
I think some fact are chang...Interesting article:)<br /><br />I think some fact are changing and put them feel unhappy group.<br /><br />1. Women power is wake up<br />The decision maker goes to women in Taiwanese life, you can see even car company target on women on advertising. Break up & disvorce news is happend on news and hollwood movies. For those loss their one time chance on marrange descion feel so bad!!<br /><br />2. Male & female structure can not be balance. <br />Connect with my first opinion, cheaper wife coming to Taiwan with "Yes, I do" Maybe 90% are ture love till old, but yes i do full time housewife totally shake freedomstyle young women. <br /><br />3. Decrease Man power beacuse stress & pressure from family<br />Making more prince Mami-boy at home, they refuse take any changage reather than play on-line game at home. <br /><br />For general you and me here, we always try to make her happy, but they always want to stay in young! Nomatter how old are them, they are update as fast as we do...Antonio Liaohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09595889813252836659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10698887.post-43301158672266145622010-09-17T02:20:52.197+08:002010-09-17T02:20:52.197+08:00I think a good insight can be had from the kind of...I think a good insight can be had from the kind of marketing spiel they put on posters advertising import brides...<br /><br />'don't run away'<br />'can live a hard life'<br />'can do hard work'<br /><br />... and so on. They seem to sell them as being able and willing to take on a role that Taiwanese women now refuse to, general house slave to pompous husband and overbearing in-laws. Whether this is true or it's just marketing drivel is unknown to me.lesnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10698887.post-87878231768001206362010-09-16T23:48:30.386+08:002010-09-16T23:48:30.386+08:00"Richa, I don't know if I got married on ..."Richa, I don't know if I got married on a lucky day, but it was a lucky day for me.<br /><br />Michael"<br /><br />Congratulations again Michael!<br /><br />I'm sure it was also a lucky magical moment for your wonderful-beautiful wife too!<br /><br />RichaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10698887.post-21165223404051857062010-09-16T23:13:36.631+08:002010-09-16T23:13:36.631+08:00Richa, I don't know if I got married on a luck...Richa, I don't know if I got married on a lucky day, but it was a lucky day for me.<br /><br />MichaelMichael Turtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17974403961870976346noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10698887.post-78760957330360374802010-09-16T23:07:42.863+08:002010-09-16T23:07:42.863+08:00"Anyway, speaking about pooches (and going a ..."Anyway, speaking about pooches (and going a bit off topic), does anyone else get perturbed by people bringing their dogs into restaurants, bakery shops, the MRT, etc? I don't really care about the MRT, but bringing dogs into restaurants and food shops has to be stopped. It is getting out of hand in Taipei."<br /><br />Hey man I even had my prime steak<br />dognapped! <br /><br />RichaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10698887.post-13989132546104427192010-09-16T22:26:48.639+08:002010-09-16T22:26:48.639+08:00Ah...I totally screwed up the grammar and spelling...Ah...I totally screwed up the grammar and spelling in my post above. That's what happens when you press the publish button to fast. Sorry about that.<br /><br /><br />Anyway, speaking about pooches (and going a bit off topic), does anyone else get perturbed by people bringing their dogs into restaurants, bakery shops, the MRT, etc? I don't really care about the MRT, but bringing dogs into restaurants and food shops has to be stopped. It is getting out of hand in Taipei.mxnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10698887.post-8745683948006214202010-09-16T20:51:29.959+08:002010-09-16T20:51:29.959+08:00And those little dog strollers. Are they really n...And those little dog strollers. Are they really necessary?Sean Reillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07882147052586949944noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10698887.post-29947466762253395202010-09-16T20:51:05.005+08:002010-09-16T20:51:05.005+08:00I disagree about the level of maturity claimed. B...I disagree about the level of maturity claimed. But the women are just as immature as the men. But some foreigners like the whole servile, immature, weak kind of partner thing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10698887.post-41422868405833128862010-09-16T20:34:31.901+08:002010-09-16T20:34:31.901+08:00Hi Michael! Just wanna know if you also got marri...Hi Michael! Just wanna know if you also got married on a 'lucky day'<br />or you're just happy to be a lucky guy getting married to a wonderful and beautiful gal on any day?<br /><br />Since it's a very personal question<br />I understand if you won't reply.<br /><br />Just give us a 'wink' sign ok? <br /><br />RichaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10698887.post-57132026456414586162010-09-16T19:08:32.379+08:002010-09-16T19:08:32.379+08:00Keep'em coming!Keep'em coming!Michael Turtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17974403961870976346noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10698887.post-43659437793302269182010-09-16T18:41:44.112+08:002010-09-16T18:41:44.112+08:00"It's easy to draw the graphs and identif..."It's easy to draw the graphs and identify the trends, but not so easy to understand exactly why."<br /><br />Not easy to understand why?! It's real easy. Just look at the guys here, and the mating rituatls. Let's see, how about:<br /><br />1. Guys Smoking, chewing bing lang, getting drunk and beating their women<br />2. no self confidence or esteem in the men<br />3. Guy's inability to express one's emotions <br />4. Men's lack of social skills or much to talk about, and no life experiences to give them any courage or separate them from others. <br />5. Being babied by mom until the age of 22<br />6. Old fashioned expectations the women want no part of<br />7. Lack of income/status having males suitable for picky women<br />8. Guys' Inability to get alone with the girls in the first place because any time you go out it has to be in big groups rendering the object of your desire completely unattainable<br />9. A dulled pimp game due to hours and hours spend chatting on line making msn winkey faces<br />10. no one is good enough for the girl's moms anyways<br />11. Women that are asexual, totally indifferent, and too busy taking photos of themselves until they are 30, when they panic and then marry the nearest available guy with a job in the science park. <br /><br />When the standard model foreign english teacher is a better choice than a Taiwanese guy, you know they have issues. Let's be honest about things.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10698887.post-68479064535754360902010-09-16T16:19:29.134+08:002010-09-16T16:19:29.134+08:00I think the key part they really miss and I get th...I think the key part they really miss and I get this from talking with lots of Taiwanese women is the total sense of insecurity and lose of control that marriage entails for them. They know how to be single and work over their parents, but that tends to change dramatically when they get married and have kids, which may need to be raised by the grandparents due to financial and time reasons.Okaminoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10698887.post-49739339881100286982010-09-16T16:01:16.601+08:002010-09-16T16:01:16.601+08:001. Many women of marriage age lived in family situ...1. Many women of marriage age lived in family situations where they saw their father move to the PRC for business. Once the father is in Princess Club Land, he inevitably finds a Xiao TaiTai which ends up destroying the family back home in Taiwan. <br /><br />When a young girl see her mother crying every night it has to leave deep physiological scars in head. Worse, is that the young son is not given moral guidance by their father and he ends up doing the same thing to their future wife. <br /><br />2. Many young women have been corrupted by the skank slut attitudes of western TV shows such as Sex in the City. <br /><br />3. Some guys in Taiwan are babied by their mothers and can barely tie their own shoes without help. (not meant to be insult to the normal Taiwanese guys, its just the way it is for some people)<br /><br />4. It seems to be the majority of TV personalities in Taiwan get divorced after the wife has one kid and the guy cheats on his wife. Next Mag, Apple Daily and the TV shows cover this adultery 24hrs and many women do not want to be in the same boat.<br /><br />5. Many women now-a-days go to school or just travel overseas. When they come back, they write/blog about the experience which plants the seeds in many girl's heads that it may be their destiny not to get tied down too early. <br /><br />There are more reasons, this is just scratching the surface.mxnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10698887.post-5146505939768595392010-09-16T11:40:34.638+08:002010-09-16T11:40:34.638+08:00"Unhappy marriages abound, ... despite everyo..."Unhappy marriages abound, ... despite everyone in Taiwan getting married on a lucky day...."<br /><br />Michael you're so damn funny! HAHAHA!<br /><br />Reminds me of those politicians registeering on a choiced auspicious day and still lost badly!<br /><br />JeffAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10698887.post-25220086393849326572010-09-16T10:49:26.579+08:002010-09-16T10:49:26.579+08:00"I hope and pray that China will give up its ..."I hope and pray that China will give up its insane expansionism, which can only result in long-term war that will hurt it badly"<br /><br />China will be in ruins and there might be another revolution.<br /><br />Japan will be radioactive for decades like Bikini Islands.<br /><br />Only the USA will remain unscathed and victorious again!<br /><br />Show the FlagAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10698887.post-32749147014055255642010-09-16T08:14:21.598+08:002010-09-16T08:14:21.598+08:00We hope and pray that the Japanese government will...<b>We hope and pray that the Japanese government will not be misguided.</b><br /><br />I hope and pray that China will give up its insane expansionism, which can only result in long-term war that will hurt it badly.Michael Turtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17974403961870976346noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10698887.post-25624656741339572262010-09-16T08:13:31.281+08:002010-09-16T08:13:31.281+08:00It's easy to draw the graphs and identify the ...It's easy to draw the graphs and identify the trends, but not so easy to understand exactly why<br />++++++++++++++++<br /><br />Yes, I have a hunch that it is more complex than "men aren't keeping up." That's why I'd sure like to see data and modeling that includes family life, father-daughter and mother-daughter relationships, and father's cheating, etc.Michael Turtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17974403961870976346noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10698887.post-33341750149623482722010-09-15T23:36:45.118+08:002010-09-15T23:36:45.118+08:00The US and Japanese naval exercise is really clear...The US and Japanese naval exercise is really clearly aimed at China.<br /><br />It's obvious that Chinese Naval Forces will never match the US naval superiority even in a hundred years.<br /><br />But if there is a conflict between these three forces in this particular area it'll not be far fetched to see that Japan will suffer the most due to its proximity not only from PRC ballistic missiles but also from the latest North Korean Scuds which maybe are already nuclear-tipped .<br /><br />The peaceful Japanese people of today really don't deserve another Hiroshima nor any Nagasaki.<br /><br />We hope and pray that the Japanese government will not be misguided.<br /><br />Peace to All.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10698887.post-32617750357431538082010-09-15T23:03:32.604+08:002010-09-15T23:03:32.604+08:00With regards to the lack of material on Google Sch...With regards to the lack of material on Google Scholar I will relate a small anecdote. A certain sociology lecturer at NCCU spent an entire semester presenting graphs and tables about marriage rates, fertility rates and female participation in the workforce. Yet she failed to offer a single theory or explanation for any of the trends. It's easy to draw the graphs and identify the trends, but not so easy to understand exactly why.Davidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13061413827755873948noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10698887.post-30470614233939202142010-09-15T21:43:10.090+08:002010-09-15T21:43:10.090+08:00SHOT ON SIGHT POODLE LAPDOGS! YES! TURTON YOU ARE...SHOT ON SIGHT POODLE LAPDOGS! YES! TURTON YOU ARE THE F**CKING MAN! FINALLY SOMEONE FEELS MY PAIN!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com